The issue isn't always the issue.
How many times has a person brought up an issue and we attempt to solve it. It is later that you find out that wasn't the "real" issue. You wasted all of that time and energy to start again. You can see this played out over and over again. Was this intentional on the person who came to you. Did they truly want to divert in you in some sort of hide and seek game?
I can not speak for all circumstances; however, human nature tends to cloak issues. We have trouble with transparency. This involves more than interaction with others. It is often that we cloak issues ourselves. You can probably remember a time when you thought your initial problem was the true problem. It depends on whether it took time or talking it out whether another party that the "heart of the matter" was discovered. Susan Scott of Fierce, Inc. calls for "interrogating reality". We can deceive ourselves and set to believing or trying to solve the surface issue. It is only by questioning and examination that one can make sure that is the true issue.
Don't waste time with the initial issues of life. Dig deep, interrogate reality! We do have challenges where you may not be able to "see the forest for the tree". This is where a coach help you examine what are the real issues, because the issue isn't always the issue.
